Updated: Jun 6, 2019
By Sharon Smith | June 5, 2019
As a Certified Dating Coach, the first question I ask during the initial date coach session is, “What’s your biggest challenge when it comes to dating?” I ask this question to have a better understanding of their disappointments, which can assist me in helping them to have better dating experiences. The most common answer to my question is a question, “Why do I keep attracting the same type of men?” Simple, if you are continually attracting the same type of men, perhaps it's time to take a look in the mirror.
I conducted a survey with thirty single women age 40 and over to find out some of their dating challenges, their answers are listed below.
I don't know where to meet singles around my age.
I can't seem to get past first dates.
It’s hard to meet a man who fits my standards.
I find very few men attractive in my eyes.
I attract much older men.
I struggle with trusting a man.
I don’t want to date men who haven’t figured out what went wrong in prior relationships.
Some men are looking for a clone of their ex-wife or ex-girlfriend.
Long distance relationships haven't worked.
A lot of men don’t want a woman with a few extra pounds.
I can’t find a man who will spend the time to let a relationship grow.
I can’t find a man who wants more than a casual date or hookup.
If I do find someone I’m attracted to, he is not attracted to me.
Most women 40 and over know what they want and don’t want in a potential partner. Yes, knowing what you want is extremely important, but instead of focusing on how a potential partner falls into your list of qualifications, focus on the qualities they possess. You just might be surprised at what you have in common and how you might be able to create a balanced relationship.
So start slow, trust the process and most of all, have fun! Dating should be fun!